Life Has A Crush On You

Falling in love with Life one day at a time…

Month: July, 2012

This right now is perfect


Today was my second day at a brand new job. The day went by quickly and I found myself again and again thinking how lucky I am that my job involves doing things I really love. I spent time researching creativity outlets and programs, brainstorming courses talented youth can take and organizing my thoughts about growth and contribution. I did this surrounded by supportive, encouraging and brilliant people who have more than generously welcomed me into their lives and space.


I realize this does not always happen.



But I can’t help but think, time and again, as they mention something that I have just thought of, or as I observe the deep peace and gentle excitement I have about working there that I am in the perfect place.


I have a sense of arriving. While at the same time, there is also a sense of just beginning. It is as if I have to accept my childhood role of learner again and not walk into any situation with the pretense that I know it all – or even a slight bit. I am there to learn, to contribute, to serve, to think.


The truth is, though, that it is not just that I feel this job is so perfect, as if it was literally created for me and my heartfelt desires, but I feel now I can see how everything leading up to it is perfect too. I can see the forest, and how every stop, every action, everything I learned, was training me for this job. Back when I was frustrated, or felt I wasn’t doing the right thing, or in the right place, the truth, as it appears, is that it actually was perfect.


So I offer this up to you to think about and accept. I also write it so that one day in the future, when I feel frustration with circumstances, I am reminded of the fact that all situations are perfect to bring me and  train me for my ideal. As I have declared in affirmations repetitively, I know more fully the truth that “All conditions are permanently perfect to bring me to my highest good.” Yes. The pain, the annoyance, the frustration, the hurt, along with the joy, the ease, the funny, the good are all conditions that serve us to become better servants and contributors to others and the world.

So keep this in mind, right now, everything around you, everything within you, all conditions you experience are exactly what you need to be your best, to give your greatest gifts.








Morning Prayer




May today we feel humble.

May we look at the vastness of the stars and the space in between them and recognize our role.




May we see this space within us. 

May we dwell in the silence we carry with us everywhere.



May we face the unknown with courage and a smile.  



May we find joy in the simple and the complex. 


May there be a time, or many, that we laugh from our soul. 
















Happy Thoughts


Facing your fear of disappointing another

A really cuddly dog

Being a voracious reader

Stepping out into the warm summer air after being too cold in air conditioning

Stepping into air conditioning after being too hot outside

A perfect white blouse

A funny meal with new friends

Adapting a practice of meditating


Learning how to clean

Breathing deeply into your belly

When things seem easy

Being excited to go to work

Zoom lenses



Laughing until you cry

Crying until you laugh

Writing a series of letters

Friends who check in on you


America, truly so beautiful

Making your home more spa-like

Finishing Touches


Being a part of a community

Journeying to the Mountaintop

I have been silent for a month, and some readers may have wondered where I might have gone. Well, I can excitingly say that I did go somewhere – a place further than I had ever been and that was the hardest place I have ever had to get to – Peru!

The idea for the trip began on the day I posted “Expect the Unexpected”. After posting and speaking about actively expecting the unexpected, I got a most unexpected email asking if I and Drew were available to host and lead a trip of 14 campers through the mountains, desert and cities of Peru. That was only the beginning.

The thing about this trip was perhaps how full it was of things I couldnt’ expect. The truth is that I don’t think anything could have prepared me for the majesty of the Andes. To wake up and see them tower over you and absorb you by their beauty. Nor do I think anything could have prepared me for the fits of laughter that ensued on the trip. Nevertheless, could I have been prepared to walk through a real oasis of palm trees and sparkling water in the middle of our desert adventure.

But the greatest thing I couldn’t prepare for was the actual journeying. Our travel schedule was very intense, waking up at 4 o’clock multiple days in a row, arriving at hotels at midnight those nights. Hiking 6 or more miles through ancient ruins at altitude. None the less the transfers of plane to bus to train to boat and back again.

A journey, it seems to me, has been romanticized a bit. We all hear each other say, “Life is a Journey” to help us appreciate that we are not all just scrounging around to try to get to one place, one destination. But what really does this mean?

The truth about a real journey is that you get weary. You get tired. It is hard. It is long.

For our group to get to Machu Picchu, the ancient Incan citadel atop an Andean peak, I wish I could describe to you the amount of energy, effort and time it took us, and we didn’t hike the Inca trail.

This is exactly the point. You don’t get to the sacred mountain top without having to go on the unglamorous parts of travel, without putting in the time at first. The closer you get to the obscure destination, the harder and few paths there seem to be. To get to the town that launched us up the mountain, there was only one train, that was curiously similar to the Hogwarts Express. There were no roads. There was only a stream along side of us, and a few views of footpaths that the Incan’s had established hundreds of years ago. Before this, just to get to the train we had to fly to a town hours away, take Mr. Toads wild ride down and up mountain roads, and spend the night in numerous hotels. This was surely a journey. 

Until now, I don’t think I ever had a true, condensed journey. Now I understand more. There is no one who can take your place on the travel time. You have to be there, to wait it out yourself. There are many stops along the way. In life these may mean jobs, new cities, different relationships, and there will be more stops afterwards, too. And finally it is physically, emotionally and spiritually hard work to get to the place you want to be.

So often, we are able to coast, to breeze from one place to another, but if your destination is something like a mountaintop, like an 8th wonder of the world, whether that be personal success, financial freedom, Divine love and intimacy, it is going to take long hours, physical exhaustion and real work.

Yet this too is vital to the mountaintop experience. The journey will break you like a military training, so that when you finally climb the last few miles to your destination, you are weary and worn and ready to fall to your knees. This way the majesty, beauty and power of the destination has openings to seep its way into your soul and travel with you forever more.

So yes, Life is a journey. But the journey is most likely harder than you can think or imagine. This is part of its beauty and power. This is part that we can’t intellectualize or think about it. It requires a presence that only we can bring to it. So I hope you don’t delay, for the actual or metaphorical journeys that lay before you. Prepare your baggage, yes, but prepare your heart and your spirit more. You will need these more than toiletries or travel dictionaries. Since on any journey you are paying with the currency of your vitality and spirit. And the exchange rate is forever in your favor.